Emotional Self-help: Learning To Heal From Within

Emotional wounds are an obstacle to moving forward. And there is no one better than yourself to heal them, heal them and learn from the situations they have caused.

There are times in our lives that we suffer, get hurt, and probably regret things that we did that we shouldn’t have done. So we need emotional help.

The big problem that a lot of people have is that they still look to the past and see that they haven’t solved everything that has hurt them yet. Even today, their life is marked by this pain. All because they haven’t been able to find the emotional help they need to overcome their problems, a help that they have within them.

According to research published in the Journal of the Spanish Association of Neuropsychiatry, self-help and counseling are not the same thing. However, it seems that the two ideas can sometimes overlap.

Thus, the “self-help” individual, according to researchers, is self-regulated and defined by certain traits : authenticity, self-acceptance, renunciation, rejection of duties imposed from the outside and search for independence which makes him foreign. to the disapproval or approval of others.

Emotional self-help: the key to moving forward

When we don’t solve our problems, our wounds settle inside us, then building a barrier that protects us from anything we don’t want to suffer from again. But why suffer again? Shouldn’t everything be resolved?

Emotional wounds, just like physical wounds, need to be healed. If we don’t cure them, they can fester for life, reminding us of everything that has hurt us and still hurts us.

Emotional self-help is therefore necessary to begin to heal. Only you can do it, even if others guide you and tell you how to overcome your experiences. Only you can heal your own wounds.

We all have the ability to heal ourselves emotionally.  Emotional self-help is something we need to be aware of and we need to put it into practice in a suitable way.

Today we are going to allow you to do this, for you have the right to be happy and to heal those wounds that have only hurt you. Now is the time to heal them.

Self-knowledge is the key

In order to heal wounds, the first thing to do is to deepen your self-knowledge. The first ally we must make in healing and progress is within us.

Here are some tips that can be helpful in leveraging this self-knowledge as a strength to move forward.

1. Don’t run away from your feelings

We know that sometimes feelings are very painful. Just like when we suffer from fear, our first reaction is to run away.

But escaping will not solve the problem. On the contrary, it can make it worse. Acknowledge and accept your pain, suffer from it, feel it and overcome it. Confronting the problem, even if it hurts a lot, will make you stronger. 

2. Don’t judge yourself

You cannot judge your emotions because, quite simply, you cannot control them. Feeling anger, sadness, hatred is not something you can decide to feel.

• This is why we cannot judge these emotions as “negative emotions”. These are natural reactions caused by a particular circumstance.

Can’t understand your emotions? Look for its origin. Why do you feel resentful? Why do you hate? Something has caused these emotions and you owe what it is to be able to accept them. This will allow you to understand, to accept and it will be an important step in your healing process.

3. Self-help is embracing conflicting feelings

We all have conflicting feelings, especially when we feel hurt. But are you going to deny it or leave it out? This reaction will not help you in your emotional self-help.

This is why you have to accept and embrace these feelings. Only in this way will you be able to begin to glimpse a little light in all this uneasiness.

4. Eliminate irrational beliefs

Why me ? What have I done to deserve this? These are questions that sometimes cross our mind and confuse us and prevent us from getting past what has hurt us so much.

• For this, the first step is to forgive.
• But not forgive others, forgive yourself.

You are not responsible for this negative situation in your life just like the other person is not to blame. These are unfortunate circumstances, but it is so. Forgiving yourself will set you free and be the healing balm. 

5. Learn and grow with emotional self-help!

All experiences, whether positive or negative , are a great opportunity to move forward and grow. It is not because they are negative that they should block us or paralyze us.

If you know how to put the above tips into practice, you will be able to benefit from all of your injuries. They make you learn and grow!

Emotional self-help is an ally

If you don’t practice emotional self-help or seek professional help , you will continue to fall into the same problems  and therefore suffer from the same mistakes.

It will plunge you into a deep sadness and disappointment that will keep you from moving forward in life.

Note: emotional self-help may not be enough. We recommend that you consult a psychologist if you need help dealing with your emotions or if you have persistent concerns.