Should We Risk Starting A Relationship From Scratch?

To start all over again with our partner, we need to make sure that we are able to forgive and forget anything that has harmed the relationship in the past.

Starting a relationship from scratch is something we are sometimes tempted to do. And this, whether it is because we ask the other or because the two partners of the couple have reached this agreement.

However, we are not aware of the risks involved.

When we decide to start all over again, we do it by dreaming a lot; on the other hand, everything that we lived with this person and that made us want to “start again” the relationship is not going to go away.

Resuming the relationship from zero will not make us forget

We may want to start over with our partner because we have been unfaithful, for example, and thus promise him that it will never happen again.

On the other hand, this request can be a way of leading us astray.

Do we really know that we are not going to make the same mistake again? Are we so afraid of breaking up that we lie to our partner and to ourselves?

We need to know that in reality we can never start from scratch. Because the person will not forget what happened.

What usually happens is that the other person accepts. But over time, she ends up being cold and distant. This being because she cannot trust us again.

That’s why we need to be fully aware of the risks involved in wanting to start a relationship all over again. Because, in reality, this “start from zero” does not exist as such.

We cannot erase everything and start over. We are not two strangers who know nothing about each other.

Together, we have lived experiences that we will keep in mind and that we will not be able to forget. It can generate resentment, prevent the relationship from moving forward, and instead of moving forward, we drift further apart each day.

Are you ready to forgive?

Taking the above into account, if we really want to start from scratch, taking it as if it is to give our couple relationship another chance by purifying everything that has happened before, we have to be some of the stage we are about to take.

As we have said, it is possible for a person to agree to start a relationship from scratch, but still not lose all the resentment, mistrust, and a bitter taste in their mouth that they might have. leave him this bad experience.

Forgiving the other person can be very difficult if the other person has been unfaithful to us, mistreated us, or done something that we have lost confidence in.

That is why, it is important that we cleanse all these emotions, that we leave them in the past so as not to blame them afterwards and to prevent them from affecting this new chance that we are giving ourselves.

Nothing should be forced. If this is not possible for us, we have to be honest and say “no” to this new start.

This will prevent hurting ourselves and the other person, and we will prevent the relationship from becoming destructive for both partners.

The illusion that disappears

If we can be aware of the past and be honest with ourselves and say “no I can’t start from scratch because you made me suffer and I couldn’t go on like it was nothing wrong” then we let go of the veil of illusion.

Many couples who want to start from scratch do so based on illusion, hope, and unrealistic expectations.

They do not take into account the fact that they are still in pain, that they need time to heal and that, as a result of the negative experiences they have had, the relationship is entirely broken.

However, it is very difficult for us to come to terms with the fact that our romantic relationship has failed. So we do everything to the impossible, knowing full well what the real result will be.

You don’t need to hurt yourself so much. It is certain that some people will be able to start from scratch because they can truly forgive. But it is not something that is simple and that everyone can do.

Can we really resist blaming each other for everything that happened? Will we avoid doing the same to him out of sheer revenge? Let’s answer all of these questions honestly and without judging our answers.