Complacent People Hide Many Wounds

We should not confuse being complacent and letting others use us. If you notice abuse, learn to distance yourself and protect your integrity.

Compliant people are more than a pillar in the family, or an eternal ally in a group of friends or a beacon of light in our complex societies.

They are a challenge to themselves because, above all, they have to face disappointments, some betrayals and the idea that not everyone sees the world from their own perspective.

It’s not simple. However, and we must stress this, it is not at all to believe that people fall into two categories: the good and the bad. It’s not that.

You just have to understand that there is a type of personality that weaves together different aspects, other qualities that make certain people unique.

They are the ones who see the world from the heart. At the same time, they stand out as the most sensitive, but they are the ones who accumulate the most courage.

They are true to their essence. Sometimes, we call them ingenuous because they trust too much, weak to give everything without asking for anything in return.

It is certain that they conceal a lot of wounds, marks which are scars. However, complacent people do not let go or desire to change their attitude. They don’t because they can’t be otherwise. No one can pull their roots out so easily.

In this article, we will explain to you how to face the daily life if you identify yourself with this profile.

Complacent people must protect their emotional integrity

A very curious aspect that complacent people experience when they suffer a disappointment is taking responsibility for it.

• Little by little, every tiny thorn, every pain and disappointment suffered in one’s own heart, in this personal chest of self-esteem.
• In the case of attributing to oneself any affront or failure, in the end a very negative self-image is created when, in reality, the one who offers affection, support should never come to. this conclusion.
• We must perfectly manage each of our realities, the positive and the negative to always keep an inner balance.

Because, otherwise, rather than heroine-s we will be victims. When those around us see us in this way, they may be taking advantage of the situation for their own benefit.

The art of cultivating self-esteem

Self-love is a psychic and emotional tendon that gives us strength and dignity. Think of him as your own skeleton. Thanks to him you maintain the balance, you move in the world with force and harmony.

•  If a bone breaks, you not only feel pain. But in addition, you stop moving forward and you also run the risk of starting to depend on others.
• Compliant people need to protect their self-esteem. To achieve this we must learn to say no when we do not want something. Or when we cannot go until we are demanded.
• At the same time, kindness is not excluded from dignity. If we know that we are victims of manipulation or selfishness, we have the right and the duty to protect ourselves. Put up barriers.

The scars you hide shape who you are today

You have often been hurt. You may never have shared all of these disappointments with other people.

• We have to learn to deal with these situations, these emotional wounds.
• If someone disappoints us, don’t blame yourself. Understand that not everyone can be the way we want or want them to be.
• It is clear that we will feel sorrow, that the disappointment marks. However, the sooner we turn the page, the better.
• Thanks to the scars we learn to see things clearly. By being more careful, not to give everything without receiving anything in return. Not to open our heart without more to those who have not yet proven anything with authenticity.

Never surrender, never lose your roots.

• Compliant people cannot be more than what they are: attentive hearts to those around them, prepared to help, to give happiness.
• This is how they feel good, how they understand life. Maybe that’s why they feel so much pain when they are quarantined, when their presence, their efforts, their dedication are no longer appreciated.
• However, you should never lose your own roots. Understand that kindness and dignity can go hand in hand.
• That giving a warning to say: “why you let me down” or “you make me feel incapable” is not a selfish act  , it is to defend oneself, it is to take care of our self-esteem.

In short, never stop being what you feel, what has always defined you. And remember, it’s never too late to set limits, to protect yourself.